He's Not That Into You

Yesterday I was having lunch with one of my girlfriends. She was explaining to me that over spring break she was able to see her boyfriend almost everyday (during regular school time, they have a long distance relationship). So she was explaining that she was looking at him like “am I really even attracted to this dude?” This really caught my attention because I think this is such a common phenomenon. Many times we (especially women) are “with” someone because we want to be able to say “I’m with someone.” Of course there are other perks to being in a relationship including: physical companionship, someone to call your phone at night, an occasional dinner date. But I just wonder how many people are in relationships because they really care for their partner? How many people are willing to put in the effort it takes to make a real relationship successful? In my experience, I do not think that many people are ready or willing to lay the foundation it takes for a relationship to last. Many times we want the other person to do most of the work; YOU call me, YOU come see me. Or sometimes we just want to be in a relationship when it is convenient for us; when we don’t have any other plans, when we feel lonely, or when special occasions come up. But what about the everyday? Do we want that also? Are we willing to except the sometimes lack in conversation skill, the horrible way he dresses, his bad taste in decorations, his past issues? So girls, the next time you say “he’s not that into me” maybe you should ask yourself if you are “that into him”